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We help your people bring their whole self into work.

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You can tell who attended Life Clubs – we’re the ones with a smile on our face! 

Those who know, do. Those that understand manage.

 

With apologies to Aristotle

When the mind is happy, productivity follows like a shadow.

 

With apologies to Buddha

If you want to change your team start by changing yourself

 

With apologies to Confucius

The unexamined career is not worth having.

 

With apologies to Socrates

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Buddy, can you spare a dime?

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It’s World Mental Health day today. And in a rather roundabout way, that’s brought me to thinking about an amazing man whom I met a few years ago.

Three years ago I was sitting at the traffic lights minding my own business when a lorry drove smack into the back of me. I couldn’t drive anywhere and so I got out of the car, and as I got out I realised that I was clearly more shaken than I had at first thought.

As I left the car, there facing me was a Big Issue vendor who proceeded to take me under his wing. He gently guided a shaken Nina through getting all the details from the driver of the lorry, phoning the AA, cancelling my meeting and finally giving me his details as a witness. And then as we sat down to wait for the tow-away car, he told me all about himself.

Like so many people in the UK, this man had struggled with his mental health for the majority of his adult life. In working with the Big Issue, he had found a certain level of peace. He told me that he loved making contact with people and having something not too stressful or time-based to focus on. The stability of the Big Issue meant that for the first time in a while, his relationship with work was relaxed and what many of us would describe as mindful.

As the AA arrived, we left each other to carry on with our days. Later I made a resolution: that, in his honour, I would always buy a magazine from a Big Issue vendor.

But recently I’ve noticed that I never have any money on me. I go out with my phone and my debit card in my pocket and nothing else. I travel light. Why do I need money? Why do any of us need money?

Whilst it may be convenient for us, a cashless economy is becoming a problem for Big Issue vendors. Many vendors don’t have the permanent address necessary to set up a bank account or the fancy smartphone required for a contactless machine. Our refusal to carry jingling coins has the danger of excluding a whole raft of people from participating in the economy and stable employment.

And so, I’ve made a new resolution: to make a conscious effort to carry at least five pounds with me at all times so that I can help those who can’t yet participate in society as we’ve created it. Why not join me… starting today.

If you buy Life Clubs workshops for your organisation this week (until October 17th), we pledge to run the same number for free for the mental health charity of your choice.

 

 

 

 

Enjoy that last puff...

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Movember and Stoptober are the kind of achingly clever slogans that I really wish I’d come up with first. But despite their wittiness, I don’t feel the need to take part in either of them. Firstly, because I’ve never been able to grow a moustache, secondly, because I gave up smoking a long time ago and thirdly because I'm a rebel and doing something because I'm told to do it has never really appealed. But the NHS believe that if you can stop smoking for 28 days you're five times more likely to quit for good and that has to be worth trying.

I remember the way I gave up was cold turkey (and, sorry, NHS, I had to give up twice for it to work – even after a year of not smoking). I knew I really wanted to end my habit and the only way to do it was to not put myself near anything that reminded me of cigarettes. I drank milk or orange juice instead of coffee or wine. I spent more time with non-smokers or, ironically, I sat in such smoky environments that my eyes would water and the last thing I’d want was to add yet more smoke to the equation. The other thing I did was the classic glass jar. Every day I put in it the amount I saved by not smoking that day and watched the green notes (as they were then) grow. I found that amazingly helpful, although I can't remember the treat I bought for myself after that first month.

But smoking is very different now from when I gave up. Back in the day you could smoke anywhere – planes, trains, restaurants, pubs, your home… and, if someone didn’t like you smoking it was their problem. Now, smoking has become a ridiculously anti-social habit. Who wants curtains smelling of stale smoke or an ashtray breath? And yet, if you’re addicted, you’re addicted. There are hardly any places that welcome you having a quick cigarette, so smoking has become an excuse to move around, get fresh air and refocus when you’re working or socialising.

What do former-smokers do now when they want those fifteen minute breaks? You can mill around outside in the cold like a lemon, still craving a cigarette. But what other refreshing things can you do with fifteen minutes that don't involve tobacco? Maybe you could start by disturbing an industrious colleague, reading an interesting article, doing a few exercises or meditating.

Yes, even a few years after I gave up I still missed procrastinating with my cigarette. Having the cigarette both as a reward for when I’d achieved something – written a paragraph, for example – was very pleasant, and so too was having the cigarette as a procrastinating device for when ideas weren’t flowing as freely as they could. But the freedom I felt when I didn’t crave that cigarette, didn't have to worry about the cost and didn't have to worry if the shops were closed, was the most incredibly feeling in the world.

So, save some money, liberate your mind, get creative in your fifteen minute breaks and give up smoking now...

If you want some help, come to your local Life Clubs workshop or bring us into your organisation. We love inspiring people to stop doing what they don't want to.

Thank goodness I'm not Steve Jobs

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Steve Jobs always used to say that each day he would check his calendar and ask himself ‘If today was the last day of my life, would I want to spend it like this?’ Apparently if the answer was ‘No’ for five days in a row, he’d begin to question what he was doing.

Thank goodness I’m not Steve Jobs…

In many ways that question is a great way of focusing you on living each day to the max, but I can also see that it could be very depressing. What if you’re not doing something vital and world changing every day? What if you like variety and days of doing small nothings and days of doing larger nothings? What if you want to take what the day throws at you? I know I’d answer ‘If today was the last day of my life I’d want to be with my children’ and I’m sure, that if we did wind up spending every day together (I’m taking this to its logical conclusion), they’d end up hating me and I’d probably get fed up with hanging around with them all the time. I suppose I could then answer the question in a different way.

Most of us like variety, doing different things at different times. Most of us enjoy a degree of randomness, of spontaneity in our lives. Most of us don’t feel the need to control every minute of every day. Plus, I always find, that it takes the days when things go wrong to make you really appreciate the days when things go right. But then, I’m not a perfectionist.

What I do think is important to notice is what we do when we’re procrastinating, because that’s often the kind of thing we’d rather not be doing. I can waste time doing lots of silly little procrastinations, like cleaning the sink or emptying the bins and, if you’re generous, you can say it’s for me to give myself some calm thinking time to prepare for what I really want to do. You can say that filling in surveys for Metro Bank means that in the back of my mind I’m deciding what I’m going to write in my bulletin. But actually I’d rather never fill in another survey again. I’d like to spend all my time writing bulletins. So, my tip for this bulletin is to watch what you’re doing when you procrastinate, because that’s probably not going to be part of the last day of your life.

Yesterday I got told, and he was right...

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I'm a reasonably formidable person and so it's a brave human being who ventures to tell me what I'm doing wrong. Yesterday someone did. Our lovely graphic designer, David, who I've known forever, came over. We were chatting about our weekends and I told him how most of my weekend was spent walking, sleeping and watching films. I was always exhausted. 
 
"You're doing it all wrong" he said. "Every day you have to stop work at 12.30 and take a lunch break until 2.00. You'll feel much more focused and energetic in the afternoon and you'll have far more life in you at the weekend."
 
This came as a huge shock. I spend much of my time working. I love it and don't feel I want or need to do much else, especially stop working at lunchtime. Apart from the fact that I spend most lunchtimes with clients, so not doing anything would be logistically difficult, what on earth would I do with 90 minutes of nothingness?
 
"I go home... have lunch... shut my eyes for 20 minutes and have a little walk if I have time" he replied. "But, if you're out most lunches so can't take a break then, start your working day ninety minutes later". Gosh...
 
That evening David's 'take regular breaks' case was confirmed by a piece of new research by Metro Bank which shows that 1 in 10 British workers never take a lunch break and over half of those that do, take less than 30 minutes. What's more, those that work for themselves, like David and me and, I'm sure, many of you, feel more pressure to be productive during their lunch break compared to their employed counterparts. Like David, Metro Bank are advocating the lunchtime break. 
 
So... this month, in honour of our July workshop, Achieving Optimum Balance, I'll be taking that time off at lunchtime and letting you know how I feel at the weekends. Let's call it the #LunchtimeChallenge. Come and join me and let me know (via Facebook/Twitter/Instagram) how you get on and what you do in that 90 minutes.
 
           

             

Leadership learnings from Wonder Woman

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Having just designed a huge leadership programme I was interested in seeing what Wonder Woman could teach me about leadership and she delivered.



These are my five top leadership learnings from Wonder Woman herself:

1.    Be curious – always want to learn. Don’t let others put you off finding out what you want to

From a young age Wonder Woman wanted to understand how to be a fighter, strictly against her mother’s wishes, so instead she watched the fighters practise in secret. Her curiosity led her to take risks.

2.    Be determined – have a goal and get on with it

In her case, Wonder Woman wanted to go to war (WW1) and would let nothing and no-one stand in her way – although they tried. Once she knew what she wanted, she was like a missile. 

3. Be self-assured – have the confidence to let others know what you want and make sure you do it

Without even knowing the full extent of her power, Wonder Woman pushed forward and took on the entire German army (well, almost). She knew that she could do it and was happy to experiment on her own.

4.    Be direct – say what you think, don’t use filters

Spoiler alert here, but there’s a fun scene in which Wonder Woman tells the good-looking male hero in no uncertain terms that men are for procreation but not necessary for sexual enjoyment. Sometimes you have to talk straight and Wonder Woman is a great role model.

5.    Be self-sufficient – be able to work alone for what you believe is right

Only by fighting alone did Wonder Woman come to realise the power of her strength. Sometimes you have to go your own path if you know something is the right thing to do. Your strength will come to you too.
 
Wonder Woman is a useful metaphor for wo/men finding their feet in life – becoming confident, understanding that we are all powerful.  
 
We like to think those who experience Life Clubs leadership and management programmes would come away with the same learnings, but it might take a little longer than 90 minutes!
 
Please get in touch if you’d like to experience how we work (see 3 above).

How I discovered that the job I loved was making me ill

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Dear Nina,

I’ve been writing my story for a coaching course I’m attending and, as I wrote it, I realised that you and your work have played such a huge part in bringing me to this point and wanted to share that with you…

For nine years I had the big corporate marketing job. I was good at it and well respected but, returning to work part-time after my first child, I felt the job was a bit rocky. Even though the role had changed a lot, over time I began to think the problems I was experiencing were my fault, that there was something wrong with me. I couldn’t understand why the job that I once loved and had been doing for 9 years, was now making me ill. I decided to take a career break as things really weren’t working and I came away wondering what had happened – I just didn’t understand it.

I turned to a book to try to figure out the answers and I found your book, The Big Book of Me, via Psychologies Magazine. I did quite a few of the exercises and found an exercise on identifying and understanding my values which was transformational. I had never done anything like that before and it made me realise that my big corporate job was compromising every single one of my values and that I was in an impossible situation. I could see that my role had changed and that there was a lot going on in the company that I fundamentally didn’t agree with, but wasn’t allowed to speak to. I really struggled with that as freedom, honesty and authenticity are my main values. Doing that exercise it all became clear – it was a revelation. There was nothing wrong with me. Those were my values and they could not be honoured in that role.

Once I’d taken that ‘Oh, it’s my fault’ pressure off me, I got pregnant with my second child which forced me to slow down. I think otherwise I would have renegotiated the role and gone back which would have been a mistake. My son forced me to slow down and I left my job at the end of my maternity leave.

After a few years of full-time motherhood, I thought I better figure out a plan of what I wanted to do with my life when my youngest child started school. What better place to start than returning to The Big Book of Me. I did all the exercises and found the exercise to write about what you don't want, as a way to crystallise what you do want. Another revelation. After 10+ pages of frantic scribbling, a real stream of consciousness, I was VERY clear about what I didn't want, namely a corporate job and all its trappings. I completed all the exercises in The Big Book of Me, came to a Life Clubs workshop in February last year (all the way to London from Dorset) and bought two of your webinar series (Best Year Ever and Get More Out Of Work, which were both brilliant), and that was the start of my journey.

I found working through The Big Book of Me hugely transformational and realised I wanted to help other people through coaching. I knew that would fulfil me. Having completed my final training I realise that I would never have found this path without The Big Book of Me. I wanted to say THANK YOU. You and your work have shaped my life and I am so very grateful. For the first time in my working life, I know with 100% certainty that I am on the right path for me and I'm super-excited and energised about what the future might bring.

Thank you Nina.

And thank you, Emma, from all of us at Life Clubs for sharing your story.

A rare hug from Life Clubs...

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Saturday was National Hug day… who knew? We certainly didn't.



I’m not actually a great hugger. On greeting friends and family, yes, but strangers I don’t really do… too British maybe..?

But hugging has been proven to build immunity and reduce stress so regular hugs have to be top of our ‘to-do’s’.

We don’t hug physically at Life Clubs, though there’s no reason why we shouldn’t.

Instead we hug emotionally, helping your colleagues feel engaged, happy, positive and raring to get on with life which, of course, includes work.
 
To understand what I mean is simple…
 
Either come to one of our 30-minute online breakfasts (our next is on 31st January at 9.00am) or grab your copy of HR Magazine and read our regular column, Finding Your Balance. It’s been created for all HR individuals because we don’t feel you always put yourselves first.
 
Looking forward to hugging you – once we’ve got to know you that is...
 

What were your best things of 2016?

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There’s no denying 2016 has been a challenging year for us all, but there were a few good things…

Among our best things have been:

  • Lauren starting Life Clubs in Prison

  • Nina being nominated for Women of the Year

  • Getting a column with HR Magazine - starting Jan 2017

  • Our first year of monthly local clubs – lots of ‘star’ clubbers

  • Lots of wonderful new (and existing) clients

  • Our Baby to Boardroom series being launched

  • Creating a new app

  • Started online breakfasts – do invite yourself

  • Lauren was interviewed on Outside In for BBC 4 Prison Radio

  • Nina coaching a lady for Sainsbury’s Magazine

Please let us know your best things and put a smile on our faces.
 
We wanted to wish you a wonderful holiday, and lots of best things for 2017 – may it be calmer and happier for all.
 
Nina and Lauren

The Secret to Success? Top Laywer Shares All...

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From personal experience, having a husband who is a judge, I’ve noticed over the years that good work life balance and emotional intelligence aren’t regarded particularly highly in the legal field.  

 

We think this inspirational story from a high flying lawyer, who was prepared to do things differently, will show you how necessary both work/life balance and emotional intelligence are, no matter what your profession.

Over to Helen…

 

I didn’t have a massive goal in mind when I first went to a Life Clubs workshop. There were a number of changes going on at work that I needed a different perspective on and it’s not always easy to expect family and friends to provide that, especially as career progression was in the mix.

 

The first session appealed to my values of accountability, routine and structure and several of the sessions still have meaning for me, some years later. Whilst drawing is not my strong suit, I drew Alice falling down the rabbit hole (representing how I felt at the time) and on another occasion, we were challenged to think how a washing machine might be a metaphor for decision-making. Sounds a bit whacky now, but I identified that I would always use the same settings and maybe that was how I was operating day to day, limiting my choices. Attending the workshops I also began to think of myself as creative, which opened opportunities at work. I became more comfortable with business development and had more confidence with the obligatory networking.

 

Regularly looking at the Life Clubs Balance Chart, to assess how different parts of my life were working, helped me recognise that all my energies were primarily going into work and I noticed, that by putting more effort into the other areas of my life, my work life also improved. Gaining more perspective and feeling more balanced prevented me from resenting the time I was investing in my career.

 

I also found I became a better listener working with different people. Through listening to each other, I helped them deal with their situations and they helped me. As a lawyer our default setting is to fix other people’s problems, sometimes before they’ve even finished the sentence. Developing more of a coaching mindset and encouraging others to fix their problems themselves has helped me become a better manager and leader.

 

In the legal profession emotional intelligence is often overlooked, but it’s essential, not only for working with clients, but also for developing talent and bringing people up through the business. Life Clubs really helped me to understand myself and others better. The workshops showed me the basics of myriad different skills that I’ve since gone on to explore on my own. It opened my eyes to different approaches that I can draw on without being consciously aware of.

 

Whilst attending Life Clubs I became Managing Partner, which was a major promotion and the support I got at Life Clubs helped me with that change. Since then, my firm has merged with another and I am responsible for 110 people at all levels within my Division and was recently given a seat on the Board.

 

Helen Bunker, Divisional Director - Private Law at

Blake Morgan LLP

 

Thank you Helen for sharing your story.

 

If you don’t know our unique workshops – do invite yourself to one of our breakfasts (live or online). If you do know our unique workshops, contact us right now for a meeting.

From prison to BBC star via Life Clubs

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Almost a year ago to the day, Life Clubs hired and trained Lauren, an ex-offender, to become one of our hosts and part of our workplace sales team at Life Clubs. After less than six months, Lauren had decided to take Life Clubs into prisons and the probation service where, she believed, we can be really helpful.
 
Thanks to her incredible resilience, bubbly personality and amazing work ethic, Lauren has just been interviewed and will be heard on BBC radio next month. We couldn’t be more delighted. Lauren’s story (below) is one of real resilience and we thought she could inspire you, just like she does us…

My 11-month prison journey was a combination of unknown stops at every turn. I was constantly moved around the system, presented with new situations, new cellmates, and different tiers with different people throughout my prison stay. The only certainty was uncertainty.

I’ve always been endlessly optimistic (yes, despite being diagnosed as clinically depressed) and I’m the type of person who believes a lesson is learned in every experience.

With the right perspective, you can believe that every challenge will present a silver lining. I went into prison with a similar attitude. The result has been a stronger, more focused, refined version of my previous self. All I needed on leaving prison was to be happy with me!

Some people get stuck in the vicious prison cycle, pass blame, go in-and-out their entire lives, and choose not to learn from their lessons. Others, on the outside, can allow themselves to become so overwhelmed that it seems impossible to overcome anything. Neither have mastered their mental strength. However, with the proper tools and techniques they can smash through these barriers.

But does prison offer the tools to help you progress in life following your release? Due to my driven and not-to-be-defeated personality, I worked harder than I ever had before. However I had the focus that others do not. Others struggle daily with even looking at themselves in the mirror. Self-image begins by believing in yourself and believing you can accomplish great things.

In bleak circumstances the mind is prone to more negativity. It is vital in those times you focus even harder on taking those thoughts captive, and discipline yourself to replace them with positive thoughts.

I continually challenged myself, but why wasn’t the system helping me? Why wasn’t there an open minded, non-judgemental scheme to train my thoughts to become more positive?

In ten months: I read 65 books (one of which was Nina Grunfeld’s,The Big Book of Me. I wrote a book - yet to be published ;-) I taught my fellow inmates all about business and accounting. I studied hairdressing and trained as a Samaritan and a butcher. Yes a butcher! I wrote every single day for 10 months straight and I incessantly trained and disciplined my mind in every way I could think of.

Close to my release I began working with Working Chance. Working Chance is an award-winning UK charity creating a revolution in recruitment. Founded in 2007, Working Chance supports women with criminal convictions and women care leavers to find quality work with mainstream employers.

Lo and behold one of the interviews that surfaced was with Life Clubs Nina Grunfeld, whose book I had read a few months before. I took this as a sign. I remember being so moved by Nina’s book, I found myself thinking about things that I never had: ‘ME’. Who I am, what makes me happy, what motivates me, what I wanted from my life, and how to achieve my potential - simple things to some, but to me and others going through a custodial sentence, not so much. Indeed, many women like myself had been so consumed with depression and the fear of what lies ahead, thoughts of how to better their lives were alien.

I attended a 4 day training with Life Clubs. That’s when I realised that focusing on me, my life and where I went wrong was going to be better rehabilitation than I had ever received in prison. Within 1 year of leaving prison, I am stronger, more inspired, self aware, more motivated, focused on my life, confident, and happier than I have ever been. I am on the right path to a brighter future and importantly to never reoffend.

Life Clubs has given me the tools to make this possible. I am eternally grateful and excited at the prospect of opening others’ eyes to the power and uniqueness of Life Clubs.

Thanks Lauren. We're grateful to you too.



Lauren (left) and Nina after completing the Shine Walk

 

 

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